Saturday, 11 August 2012

Tranny* not tyranny

* The term is used for educational and linguistic purposes. Apologies if you find it offensive. 

The newly revised Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) probably won’t find its way on your 2013-must-read-list. The manual, however, marks a milestone for transgender individuals and advocates, as the term gender identity disorder will be replaced with gender dysphoria[1]. Arguably, the change is meant to break down the stigma of mental illness and discrimination against transgender, but it is also an eerily familiar path that some had travelled before.

Homosexuality was initially removed from the DSM in 1973 but a new diagnosis, ego-dystonic homosexuality, was subsequently created for the manual[2]. It took over a decade later for all homosexual related conditions to be completely lifted[3] and for homosexuality to be accepted as a normal human experience. Today, equality and civil rights for homosexuals are still few far and between; and for the transgender community the new term indicates that the struggle for recognition has only just begun.

Some governments have taken steps to remove discrimination against transgender by relaxing the procedures of changing gender classification on legal documents. The UK[4], US[5] and Australia[6] allow their citizens to change the gender classification on their passports on the basis of a letter from medical practitioner; sexual reconstruction surgery is not a pre-requisite. In Argentina gender can be changed without declaration or medical evidence, and New Zealand is currently looking into shifting to a similar position[7].

This means well but it also means transgender individuals have to conform to the general classification of gender, male or female, to avoid discriminations. Why should they compromise to the society’s idea of ‘normal’, and why couldn’t there be a gender category for transgender and everything under its umbrella? In Australia, intersex individuals, those who do not identify with the sex assigned to them at birth, can opt for gender option ‘X’ on their passports[8]. But we’ve got to ask ourselves if labeling is the right approach to promote tolerance and acceptance or will it invite further discrimination since the target is out in the open.

While some tyrannies have to be fought with revolution and global movement, some can be toppled with early education at homes, schools and beyond. Discrimination and negative perception is the kind of tyranny that can go by unnoticed but its effect to society is no less damaging. Struggles for freedom and equality must come from the masses just like what we’ve seen recently with the Arab Spring and the Global Occupy movement. Each of us can play a role in educating others and ourselves, and with the use social media we are more connected and empowered than ever. You’d be surprised what a tweet, a hash tag or a facebook status post can achieve, and on that note here’s one from me – Say ‘Yes’ to tranny and ‘No’ to tyranny.


[1] DSM-5 Development (http://www.dsm5.org/Pages/Default.aspx)
[2] Facts About Homosexuality and Mental Health (http://psychology.ucdavis.edu/rainbow/html/facts_mental_health.html)
[3] Ibid.
[4] Gender Recognition Act 2004 (http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2004/7/crossheading/applications-for-gender-recognition-certificate)
[5] New Policy on Gender Change in Passports Announced (http://www.state.gov/r/pa/prs/ps/2010/06/142922.htm)
[6] Australian Government Department of Foreign Affairs and Trade (https://www.passports.gov.au/web/sexgenderapplicants.aspx)
[7] Transgender passport changes possible (http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/7211722/Transgender-passport-changes-possible)
[8] Australian Government Department of Foreign Affairs and Trade (https://www.passports.gov.au/web/sexgenderapplicants.aspx)

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Tuesday, 6 March 2012

Shame


Shame[1], a film by Steve McQueen, is a provocative and brave film about the lustful but destructive world of sex addiction. It follows the life of Brandon an executive in New York who leads an ordinary life but is fanatically addicted to sex. The film boldly displays the physical symptoms of sex addiction as Brandon immerses himself in casual sex, prostitutes, porn and masturbation. Even more intriguingly Shame explores the psyche of an addict with such intensity that it is almost painful to watch. This psychological aspect of the addiction really strikes a chord in me because I can almost see myself in Brandon.

Upon the release of Shame, The Guardian published an article titled ‘Shame: sex addicts reveal all’[2] featuring five recovering sex addicts. One of them says “an addict needs a series of rituals to get them into what they call the bubble or trance”. It can either be music, alcohol or anything that forces you to indulge in sexual ecstasy in any way possible. Ever since the slutty girl in me unleashed herself I only seek sexual pleasure when I’m dressed up to the nines. When I’m really into it I can suck and get a good pound up to six times on a single weekend. I wonder if my alter ego puts me in the bubble and gives me the energy I need to satisfy my hunger.

Another aspect of sex addiction featured heavily in the article is sex addiction is in fact an intimacy issue. This notion is portrayed in Shame when Brandon fails to get turned on with a girl he has started building a relationship with. The same thing happened to me a few weeks ago when a guy was trying to have sex with me. Upon reflection I could think of two causes: I wasn’t in my alter ego’s bubble and we knew each other very well. When I looked back at sexual encounters I hardly had sex with the same guy more than once or twice. I just simply find it more exciting to play with someone who doesn’t know or doesn’t have emotional connection with me.

Sex addiction is no different than drugs, alcohol or gambling addiction as it affects you on so many levels. But an addiction only becomes an addiction when it has a negative impact in your life and others around you. This is where I draw the line between Brandon and myself. I do think that I have perfected my sexual routines so I can still perform and enjoy non-sexual activities. As much as I am willing to push boundaries, I am not breaking the law nor am I facing any legal charges. More importantly, unlike Brandon and the five sex addicts, I feel no shame in over indulging in one of life’s greatest pleasures. On that note I am going to quote Marquis de Sade, a French writer who was famous for his libertine sexuality, "Sex is as important as eating or drinking and we ought to allow the one appetite to be satisfied with as little restraint or false modesty as the other”[3].
  



[1] http://www.foxsearchlight.com/shame/
[2] http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/jan/10/sex-addicts-talk?intcmp=239
[3] http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/m/marquis_de_sade_2.html